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Tuesday, May 29, 2007

The Secret To You

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Eleanor Roosevelt

"A women is like a tea bag, you never know how strong you are until you get into hot water"

Another great quote left on SBH by a regular visitor; FNL. Thanks FNL for your continued support. I might add that Eleanor's quote could be applied to all of us regardless of gender.

Balancing my Sanity: Understanding my own Homeostasis

Understanding our inner most issues is often a life time pursuit. Often times we make choices that we are not really aware of. We take way to much of what others do and say personally and form negative beliefs about ourselves. We do have a choice. A choice to be the authority of what controls our internal mechanisms that keep our sanity in balance. This constant balancing act is called homeostasis.

Do you think that the ever present issues related to our internal fear of rejection drive us to compromise much, we choose without making a choice? Most of us know what we want or do not want from life. What we miss is our internal drive that seduces us into a life of mediocrity. I have formed my own definition of failing, as we all have, and I struggle to stay away from that end of the scale. But I have not been aware of my internal mechanisms that keep me from success. This issue of fearing success was best brought to light by Mrs. Williamson.

"When Marianne Williamson wrote the words, the professional positive-thinker didn't think they stood out from any of the others in her book, "A Return to Love." Then someone -- who, exactly, remains a mystery -- incorrectly attributed a 13-sentence paragraph from the book to South African activist Nelson Mandela, turning an inspirational thought into the most famous words she's ever written. "It's a total urban myth," Williamson said of the idea that Mandela uttered her words, much less included them in his 1994 inauguration speech after he was elected president of South Africa. "I have absolutely no idea how it happened."

"As I interpret the Course, 'our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened
about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."


What madness have I created for myself in allowing my internal issues to choose my fate or destiny? What successes have I self-destroyed by allowing my internal issues to regulate my fears? What fears have I falsely allowed to control my thoughts? What must I do to control my internal homeostasis so that success is no longer a fear I unknowingly choose to run from? How do I break free of this earthly mindset and allow God to bring me to my full potential, the potential he created me to become? What are your thoughts on this?

Monday, May 28, 2007

Least We Forget

May God bless all those who serve our country. Many have given the ultimate, so that we may live in the land of the free and the home of the brave.

Please take a moment of your time to think of and thank the brave souls that have and are standing in the gap for us.

THANK YOU! I pray that we live our lives worthy of your sacrifices.

Sunday, May 27, 2007

Children see-children do

Check out this awsome short film at YouTube


Yes, Attitude for a lifetime of success

While rushing to catch a plane in Miami, my eyes focused on a little yellow book and a small voice said to me, "buy it." It was one of those spontaneous buys. I had never heard of this book, nor had I any reason to buy it other that that spur of the moment thing that I get from time to time.
Anyway, as I read the book on the flight back to the west coast I soon realized that I had purchased a gold mine of insight and knowledge. This book rocks. It is simple to read and has gold nuggets throughout it. It has quickly become another one of those must reads for SBH.

Call to cast

I love fishing with my children. Meg and I hit a favorite spot recently and had a blast. There are some places in life, that when you arrive, you become overwhelmed by some urge to engage the moment. The east side of North lake at 6 a.m. is one of those moments. As you clear the shrubs along the stream, the solitude of this lake slaps you in the face and says, "Today is a new day, grab hold and enjoy." You can not help the urge to drop your gear and immediately start to reap the hope held in that moment.

Giddy as a young school boy, a smile grows upon my face and all of my worries fall into the abyss of what once was. My heart rejoices in the new promises held in all of my tomorrows. It is this moment that makes life's struggles worth the spent energy and agonizing pain. These moments restore my soul and renew my dreams. It is a privilege to share just one of these moments in life with a child, yet I have shared many. No matter how tired I become, no matter how exhausted I get, I will rise to greet this moment every chance I get in this journey we call life.

Eleanor Roosevelt

" No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

The Four Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom.

Recently, a friend of mine "gifted" me a new book; The Four Agreements. This book is very interesting. I would suggest this book to anyone who really wants to become all that they are meant to be. The wisdom of this books is stated to come from the Toltec Indians from around 1000B.C.

There are 4 agreements that guide us to personal freedom. These agreements are as simple as they are complex. Anyway, next time you are in a book store give the book a glance, you may want to read it.

Robert Ardrey

" There is nothing so moving - not even acts of love or hate - as the discovery that one is not alone."

When Rocks Swim

Recently I was fishing with a new friend, Saku. Saku is from Kyrgyzstan. While fishing on a sierra lake early in the morning, Saku looked at me and said, "I think fishing teaches men hope." I could not agree with Saku more. Later that day we found ourselves fishing a small pool in a stream. Due to a lousy day of fishing, we had resorted to only catching small fish from a small stream. We both found this boring because we had hoped to catch a big fish. That is why we fish, to catch the big one.

As the morning wore on our efforts to achieve our goal wore out. We had tried just about every thing in our arsenal and even the little fish were being defiant. Then in a fraction of a second, the space-time continuum shattered for us. A large rock swam across our little fishing domain. Our paradigms of hopelessness and failure shifted. We were no longer reduced to smallness, but now full of hope and excitement. With this new perspective that big fish were in this hole, we became full of hope once again; We can still achieve our dream of catching a big fish. It is hear in this moment of new understanding that I want to bring our attention to.

Have you ever encountered a moment where reality shifted so suddenly that you instantly adjusted your point of view of your possibilities? I am talking about that moment where you realize your dreams can become reality. A moment of forgiveness that realigns you with who you want to be and is coupled with the possibilities of becoming more than you ever thought you could be. If you have been there, then you have seen rocks swim.

"Some of my best friends are hounds"

Recently I was sent back east to search for new ways for my company to be more effective in the community we serve. During this adventure I meet some really cool folks and from them, I gained some insight into myself and my own perspectives. One of the biggest paradigms that I experienced is that racism is alive and well in America. I am going to share some encounters that have changed my perceptions on this topic.

First let me set the scene. I was traveling with a brilliant young lady who is soon to achieve the title of Doctor of Psychology. She just happened to be African American. I am a large white redneck sort of fella. So we have a lovely educated lady and a corn feed white boy traveling together, and for some unknown reason, folks constantly assumed that we were married. Now we have different last names, stayed in different hotel rooms and were never un-professional in our demeanor in any way. So the reason/s that assumption still eludes me, other than that some folks figure if a white and black person get along they must be married or something. Anyway, because we traveled together I was able to see how some in the country treat different color of skin differently.

We were allowed to experience the west suburbs of Chicago with some community workers. Many folks were concerned with the fact that I was white. This confused me at first. To try and build a social bridge and let everyone know I was not a prejudice person I said "Many of my best friends are black." Now here lay a problem, that I was unaware of. Take the picture above, if I say many of my best friends are foxes, and you are a fox, have I done anything to make you feel more comfortable with me? When I was asked to see/feel the statement in reverse, "Many of my best friends are white" I realized that I was creating a picture of the exact opposite of what my true intention was. Needless to say, I do not use this term anymore to try and build a bridge of comfort and acceptance.

While in our hotel lobby, we were standing there and a nice white lady walks by us. This lady looked at me and smiled all nice and full of kindness. I watched her as she looked over at my partner and gave this ugly and condemning glare, then back towards me with a nice smile. I was shocked, for we had not met this person, nor had we spoken with her. She just reacted to her own feelings about each of us. Had she known my partner, maybe she would not have had, or allowed herself to react with disapproval. But why do we, as people, do this to start with? Why do we judge so quickly by skin color? I have heard the excuses, but they just do not add up to so much hate, on all sides of this issue.

While we were setting in the Chicago airport a black man set down next to us. We were engaged in a conversation about slavery and it's ripple effect throughout American history. I stated to my partner that we should ask this man who seem to have an African accent. So with some risk, I asked him if he would join our conversation and he said yes. To my amazement he told us that immigrant blacks, such as himself, get along better in America with the white people that they do with Black people. This observation of his obviously opened up a great conversation that opened up more that just my eyes. He told us that in Africa, the black people recognize country of origin. And it is here that they dislike or like someone, not so much skin color.

As we traveled to Miami, there I learned some more about this issue that still festers in my country. I grew up in a non-racist home. I never was exposed to any comments that formed a belief that anyone with different skin color was any different than I. I also realized now that maybe I have indirectly added to the problem by making comments that I thought were building bridges of acceptance. I wonder just how many of us, have, or are, accidentally acting with a prejudice view. I do realize that some are just plan haters, but I can not reconcile that most are this way. I think we need to validate and embrace our diversity as a country. Maybe we need to realize that we come from different origins and that our true strength is hidden in this fact. What do you think?

Saturday, May 26, 2007

SOAR School

I want to give a quick shout out to the SOAR School Class of 07; Allison, Mary, Eric, Jarred, Adam, and Saku. You guys rock, thanks for a great time in Bishop. For my other readers, the SOAR School is an international wilderness experiential education instructor school. The school last 6 months and cover a large arena of course topics. I really enjoy the four days I get to teach the students. These year was great, as has been every class I have had the honor to work with.

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