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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Eleanor Roosevelt

"Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people."

What do you discuss?

What is "unlived truth"?

DL Moody made a great statement when he said, “Our great problem is the problem of trafficking in unlived truth”, but what does it really mean? Thanks to the wide spread drugs and drug dealings, we all understand the term of "trafficking." But, in an effort to keep a solid level of understanding, let's take a look at that word. The word trafficking, in this context, could mean: buying and selling, commercial dealings, mutual exchange or communication, contact between groups. These are some of the definitions from the dictionary, so you can see why it is important to come to an agreement to what trafficking means in this context. Given DL Moody's life and mission, I am going to lean towards the "mutual exchange through communication."

Now for the hard part, "unlived truth." This has resonated in my brain housing group for the last several days. What is unlived truth? I started exploring this concept with the opposite understanding, lived truth. At first, this almost sounds like a redundant phrase. But let me attempt to provide an analogy of what I think the difference is. Would you/someone mess around with a bomb if you did not know anything about bombs? Most of us would quickly say "no." This is unlived truth at its best. The reality is the only people that mess around with bombs are those who really do not know about bombs. The people who know about bombs do not mess with them, they tend to try and detonate them in place without messing with it. Lived truth.

So how does this concept apply to D L Moody's statement? How do we get to a life full of lived truths? I think the first step may be in understanding what our truths are. This in of it self sometimes takes a life time to define. Then, if you have any kind of life span left after defining your truths, you must base your choices and actions off of them. It would seem to me, that truth becomes more important as we age. While in our youth we tend to live worrying more about unlived compromises, or unlived income potentials. Maybe we should slow down a moment and listen to our older, more mature generations and take heed to that which they regret not paying attention to in their youth.


Saturday, October 27, 2007

Robert Fritz

"If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise."

Friday, October 26, 2007

George Eliot (pseudonym of Mary Ann Evans Cross)

"The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice."

The Power of Choice

As one of the oldest games handed down to us through history, chess is one the greatest tools to teach life. This board game slowly reveals its multi dimensional depth to the student. The lessons begin with learning the simple movements of the pieces. Once mastery of the pieces is completed, then the real depth of the game is learned. This may take a life time, as chess encompasses strategy, philosophy, advanced mathematics, and an understand of the human nature. The dimensions of chess is what makes it so tempting to utilize as a training tool to teach the depths of life. Among all of life's lessons to be learned, the power of choice should be among first for us. This lesson, the dynamics of choice, is what I want to explore in this post.

The moves on a chess board quickly reveal to the opposing sides that choice and consequence reign. A thoughtless action, an overlooked consequence will soon have it's sting upon the careless, reckless, and hasty player. As one's experience grows in this battle between queens and kings, insight into human choice begins to unveil itself. The player who learns how to present choice in such a way, where the opposition chooses a desired path, understands the power of choice. This power of choice can then be applied to life. What I am referring to is much bigger, more powerful, and incredibly more effective than the simple "this or that" choice presentation we have all been given in the past.

We all want to feel like we have a choice. Most of us do not like feeling that we have no power to choose our path. We do not like that feeling we get when our voice, our personal validation, or our vested interest does not matter to situational outcomes. We must have choice. Knowing this gives the knowledge bearer a huge advantage. Learning how to present choices to others may be the most powerful skill life has kept hidden. What do you think?


Tuesday, October 23, 2007

D L Moody

“Our great problem is the problem of trafficking in unlived truth”

I go this quote from this great blog http://endlesslyrestless.blogspot.com/

When Bulls teach Bears how to be men.

I have no idea how many of you hunt big game, But I really enjoy hunting. A few years ago I witnessed something that has stuck with me. Several of my friends and I were hunting elk in Colorado. We chose the last rifle season in hopes of getting into some cold weather. When it snows up high the elk move and we were in luck. As I sat high up on a ridge in one degree weather, I watched an old majestic bull and his herd. I was to far away from him to even think about taking a shot, so I just watched his drama unfold before me.

The big bulls massive horned crown stretched past his mid back. The bass of his rack looked like it was made from the thick part of a Louisville slugger. His body was huge, a hunters dream he was. He had lead his herd into a bad situation at a very fast pace. As hunters below scattered to get into position to take a shot he realized his mistake and re-directed his herd. As he turned his herd, it appeared that some knucklehead took a bad shot and wounded this noble beast. I was angry that this had happened and started rooting for the big bull. what happen next amazed me. The injured bull began to lag behind due to his injury. A pack of coyotes started to pursue him as his herd pulled away. I was tempted to take a few shots to scare the weaselly pests away, but realized at my distance I may hit him. I was sadden at the prospect of such a noble animal being reduced to coyote bait because of a fellow hunter's foolish effort.

As the coyotes closed in, all of the young bulls from the herd fell back and made a circle around this big bull. They kept his pace, step for step and warded off any attempt by the coyotes to get close. I watched, motionless, as the events unfolded. I asked myself about how these young bulls learned such honor and respect for their leader. The dedication to him was unbelievable.
To this day I am in awe of this bull and his herd.

Recently I was thinking about this bull and the lessons I learned from him. I asked myself, "who is teaching the younger males around me how to be men?" I know I had to learn through trial and error. But why do we continue this habit? Why do we allow young men to struggle in their marriages? Who teaches them about their role has a young bull who will someday lead their own herd? Who is teaching them the do's and don'ts of life? What to worry about and what to just let go? Where as men, do we learn how to validate our wife's efforts? Where do we learn what spiritual, emotional, physical, mental, security means, looks like, and feels like? I wish I had a noble old bull to teach me.


Sunday, October 21, 2007

Mikhail Weller

"An unlucky person is not someone who has little of something, but someone who suffers and is miserable because of the need for more."

Friday, October 19, 2007

Alexandre Dumas pere

"Be nice to people on your way up because you might meet 'em on your way down."

The Sadness of the Summit.

We dream of, plan for, and risk so much to attain those summits in our lives. Whether it a new house,new job, or climbing Mount Everest, we spend so much energy trying to achieve the goal. But what do you do we we get there? For me there is always a sense of sadness once I achieve the summit. The next step is downward towards the next valley. I can remember a time when I was younger when my climbing buddies and I spent a lot of time training and preparing for this one climb. Once we had top out on the route and were standing on the summit we realized something very important. We did not plan for the down climb. We had focused so much on just reaching the top we had not given any thought to the decent.

How many times do we do this in our lives. How many times do we consider the post summit blues? How do we miss the decent in our plans? I was thinking of some of the issues involved with post summit depression. I began to understand why so many climbers what to hang out high up in the death zone. The desire to soak in every second of success before the long journey back down into the everyday boredom of life's valleys.

There is another dynamic of summiting life's challenges that I should touch on. Some folks actually fear the possibility of making the summit. The do not see themselves successful and will unconsciously sabotage their own efforts to achieve the summit. But what I want to focus on is the post summit issues. The planning of what is next. We set goals for ourselves but do not form the habit of extending our plans to the next step of returning to "normality." This is a huge planning step that we should keep in the fore front of our minds as we progress through achieving our success. The achievement of our goals are only momentary in time, what matters is the next step toward the next summit and the valley that lays between the two.


Thursday, October 18, 2007

Poster Graphics by Campitor Productions

The new poster on the left was made especially for Sleepy Bear Hollow and the EDGE Foundation by Megan. Megan is a 16 year old who has started her own small graphics/web design company. I will be posting more of her art work in the future. Megan did most of the artwork for our fundraising concert. This include gallery posters, print ready adds, program art work, and table art. She is also the one that design this years look here at SBH, as well as, consults on some of the other graphic issues here. Megan also has taken some photos that she has allowed us to use with our stories. She does a great job for us. Thank you Megan.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

What's in a dream that makes them so powerful?

Several years ago my wife dragged the family to a "highlands games" near the coast. The kids and I were dreading this endeavour, however, it was a "dream" of my wife's to attend one of these events, so we all went. My youngest had just started to play the violin, so she became excited to find a "kids" group playing violins and insisted we go see them play. The group was called Celtic Spring, and they are good. You may have caught them on NBC's America's Got Talent show. Well, after seeing this group preform, Madison declares that her dream is to be able to play like them. Now, I am not one to take dreams lightly. Sometimes a parent is thinking things that a parent should not say. But, I encouraged her, and then we went and got some cotton candy to make the madness go away.

Fast forward a few years, as the President of a foundation I was wrestling with the idea of producing a fundraising concert. I knew nothing of such events. Over the course of time, I had met a band called Silent Planet and had hired them for some private events. Dan, from Silent Planet, encouraged me to produce a concert, so I did. I had hired both Silent Planet and Celtic Spring to perform at this event.

Well, when Madison realized that Celtic Spring was going to be playing, her excitement went through the roof. All she could talk about was getting to meet them and talk to them. The day of the concert came and I had to be at the theater to help over see the set up, more like answer questions to which I had no idea about. I had this wild idea to take Madison with me that morning just to let her see what went on in preparing for a show. Celtic Spring took her in like she was one of them. She ran around all day with them. Long story short, They had asked her to bring her violin to the evening show. They worked with her and prepared her to play with them during the grand finale. What a treat. She played one song, on stage, with her musical role models. For her, in that moment, her dream had come true. For me, I learned a huge lesson about dreams. Chasing dreams are about seeking, or creating, opportunities for your dreams to unfold.

We pray for this and that but we often rarely act on the opportunities presented. Dreams are meant to be grabbed. I was teaching a leadership class recently and this topic came up. We ask a question, "If children live their dreams, what do adults live?" The answer is always the same. Adults live reality! The discussion rapidly moves into the compromises made and the responsibilities that force those compromises. A question came up about why some dreams are never realized. I stated, much to some folks dismay, that the reason some dreams are not realized is because we were never really committed to them to start with. That went over like a fart in church. But when you think about it, the dreams we walk away from, we are not committed to. We assess the cost or commitment needed to get there and we walk away from it.

But then there are those dreams that grab on to us and will not let go. There is something within that dream that just wont let go. It nags at our inner most being. We will forfeit almost everything to achieve it. In some case everything is forfeited in the pursuit. What is it, what is in the recipe of a dream that would cause us to do such a thing? What kind of dream is consuming you? How many dreams have you walked away from because the cost was too much? How many opportunities have you missed? And most of all, how many times have you failed to create opportunities for others to achieve their dreams? I know I have been guilty of all of these things. My youngest has taught me more than I think I will ever teach her about dreams and opportunity.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

We writers here at SBH want your input

We would like to invite you to take a moment and provide us some insight about this blog. As the new year approaches we are exploring some changes. But, we do not what to discard the things you like the most. So, if you would, cast your vote to the right and help us improve. This will be the first of a series of polls we have plan.

Friday, October 12, 2007

Mordecai Richler

"Fundamentally, all writing is about the same thing; it's about dying, about the brief flicker of time we have here, and the frustration that it creates."

A. Whitney Brown

"I am as frustrated with society as a pyromaniac in a petrified forest."

Why are we so damn good at destroying young lives?

I do not know if I should apologize first or not for this post. I have been stewing on some issues lately that quite frankly, piss me off. So today, I decided to post on it and see what you all think.

For 26 years I have been trying to make a difference in a population commonly know as "At-Risk" youth. This journey of mine includes employment and volunteerism with: faith based programs, mental health institutions, wilderness experiential education programs, law enforcement based programs, community based programs, "inner city" programs, and privately funded efforts. I have a fair amount of college courses under my belt, and I have been flown all over the country to look at and learn from many great organizations. I do a fair amount of consulting on juvenile intervention for some rather large institutions. I have five doctorate level professionals that loosely mentor me. I think it is safe to say that I have developed a pretty decent level of experience and knowledge on the matter.

Recently I was asked to sit in on a "think tank" type of a meeting that was exploring the high school expulsion process. This meeting lit a fuse for me that has extremely angered me. The topic that lit my fuse was the fact that this school district expels the 'poo-butts' and sends them to a continuation type program. That is the normal process. However, there was this common knowledge that when the kids showed up for school, the teachers did not come to work, which left the kids unsupervised. What does an unsupervised poo-butt do? More importantly, what does that tell the kid about what the authority figures think of them? “Every child has inside him an aching void for excitement and if we don’t fill it with something which is exciting and interesting and good for him, he will fill it with something which is exciting and interesting and which isn’t good for him” Theodore Roosevelt, President of the United States

I started to think about this madness. Please understand that I am currently engaged in a serious effort to save these lives. We recently had a 13 year old boy fatally shot in the back as he walked home from Jr. highschool. *Median age for beginning to associate with gangs was 13, Median age for actually joining was 14 – as well as the median age for first arrest. The FBI reports that 3.3 million kids (17 and under) were victims of a crime while at school. *About 1 in 4 male and females with delinquency records were first referred before the age 14. We are screaming for help and I swear every one thinks its a joke.

I was directed to go to the faith based organizations in the community for help. Surely Christians would help. I went to a large (2000+) local church to try and recruit mentors. We just wanted to get some good role models involved in these extremely impressionable lives. We could not get one church person to show up. I went to a local Southern Baptist university to try and get some of the students to donate some time to tutor these kids. Not one person volunteered. These churches are populated by middle/upper middle class people. Maybe they just let fear dominate their response when it comes to poor kids? After all, God can only protect you so much, right? Juvenile Justice policies have historically been built on a foundation of myths. From the “Dangerous classes” of the 19th century to the super predators of the late 20th century, government responses to juvenile crime have been dominated by fear of the young, anxiety about immigrants or racial minorities, and hatred of the poor ( Platt, 1968, Wolfgang, Thornberry, & Figlio, 1987).

I had to deal with a case where the child was arrested for a knife on a school campus, and now has a juvenile record. What these professionals considered a knife was only the nail cleaning part of a pair of finger nail clippers. Have we totally lost our common sense? Is the only tool we have left to address these issues a jail? *Allowing one youth to leave high school for a life of crime and drug abuse costs society $1.7 - $2.3 million. I understand the need for structure and discipline. But when we see every problem as a nail, we will always use a hammer to deal with it. We can not arrest our way out of this mess anymore. We are not allowing youth to leave school, we are telling them to leave.

We expel kids every day from school for acting up. The current trend is that less than 50% of a freshman class will graduate 12 grade. We put a 14 year old in state prison walking main line with hard core convicts. **By age 12, up to 40% of later serious offenders have committed their first criminal act. We have kids shooting up school campuses. ** By age 14, up to 85% have committed their first criminal act. Juvenile crime is steadily climbing up the stat charts. And we are cool with that, as long as it does not affect us? Well, I am not!

We have parents killing their entire families. Law enforcement is now tracking "thrown away kids". We have parents that honestly do not care. *Study findings revealed that persons who had been abused or neglected as children increased the likelihood of arrest as a juvenile by 59%. I get calls weekly from a parent that just wants us to take their kid away, forever. You had the kid, you need to step up and raise the kid.

The media openly supports every thing that is against any value that once formed a moral foundation for this country. Kids mimic what they see, and the blood runs down the street gutters while every one looks around to see who, or, if anyone will notice their apathetic do-nothing mind set. The silent majority would rather watch a kid bleed out rather than risk a moment of compassion.

I am so pissed off at this mess. I get so aggravated by adults who gloss over societies huge black eye; the destruction of younger generations. Most of the kids I deal with do not care about global warming, health insurance, higher education opportunities, or how their behavior will effect their future because they SERIOUSLY believe they will not live past 20 years of age. And we (society) keep affirming that. Can someone please tell me why are we are so damn good at destroying lives? Societies crime tolerant apathetic attitude is killing your children America.

*= U.S. Department of Justice. Office of Justice Programs. Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. Juvenile Offenders and Victims: 1999 National Report.

Welfare League of America: Programs: Justice Division, Child Maltreatment and Juvenile Delinquency.

**= What Works and What Doesn’t in Reducing Recidivism: The Principles of Effective Intervention: Edward J. Latessa, Ph.D. ,Center for Criminal Justice Research ,Division of Criminal Justice ,University of Cincinnati

If you have lasted this far on this post, thanks for hearing me spew my frustration.


Thursday, October 11, 2007

Jim Goodwin

"The impossible is often the untried."

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

A trip to the movie rental store

Earlier in the week my wife and I went to the movie rental store to see what was out, and to rent some cheap entertainment. Our selection, Evan Almighty, Surf's Up, and Room 1408. Now that I have viewed these movies, I think this combination is like a peanut butter sandwich with dill pickles and chocolate syrup. The lady at the counter stated that if we returned the movies in a day we would get a $1.00 off each rental. When you're married to a woman with Scottish blood you know you are going to see all three movies, one right after the other, so she can get her 3 bucks. Let me just say that this movie combination, seen consecutively, might land you in a psych ward. Being me, bent mind and all, I enjoyed the experience.

I thought that I would dislike Evan Almighty, but the movies message of acts of random kindness (ARK) was agreeable to me. Change the world by doing acts of kindness randomly. This message is not new, we saw the concept in "Pay it Forward." However, Evan Almighty used humor and Morgan Freeman as God. The churchy types may get offened by the spin off of Noah, but the movie does have a great message and the churchy types could change the world if they applied the message....Hello?!
My wife and I both thought that "Surf's up" was going to be a test of endurance. This movie is a kids flick about Penguins surfing. Sweet little penguins hanging ten for over an hour, get the no doze. But, to my surprise this movie also had a great message. What matters most in life is not winning, but the relationships we have. OK, I was doing good. I survived two of the three and I was feeling all warm and fuzzy. Now quick, put in the newest of the Steven King Horror movies to cap off the night.
Room 1408 is a real mind bender in the true Steven King fashion. It took about 30 seconds for the little ones to leave the room. I hate horror movies, but my wife promised some special cuddles if I sat and watched it with her. I really liked this movie. I am not sure of the intended message, and I may be the only one on this planet that got this from the movie but here is what I thought. This movie is about making peace, or at least facing, our deepest fear based emotions. A haunted room and a hurting soul made for one hell of a roller coaster ride. (pun intended) Our minds are full of bad memories, sometimes we just need to learn to live with them because they are not going to go away.
The next movie night we have, I think I might be brave enough to have chips and salsa with that sandwich.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Sara Paddison-Hidden Power of the Heart

" You'll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything. When you make that one effort to feel compassion instead of blame or self-blame, the heart opens again and continues opening."

Attitude, orientating towards success.

Aircraft have a gauge that tells the pilot the aircraft's orientation as it pertains to the horizon. This is known as the attitude gauge. This is one of many gauges, but it is one of the important gauges to pay attention to if a pilot wishes to stay healthy. I like the gauge to the left because it discerns, with color, the difference between dirt and air. If all you see is brown, hello, your going to land the aircraft in an undesirable fashion. The Space Shuttle would see a lot of blue on take off. I am sure you get the picture.

A pilot can "input" responses into several control mechanisms to adjust the aircraft's attitude. Thus, keeping the aircraft headed towards the intend destination. Knowing how to manipulate the aircraft's controls is how pilots make their money. But how do we as individuals control our own attitude? Our personal attitude is just as important to control or direct. Having a goal, plan, or destination is extremely helpful in our efforts in directing our attitude. But I am not going to go into that at the moment. Just know that we need to have a direction in which we wish to go. Controlling attitude is about movement, not sitting on a couch and wishing for something to happen.

What I am going to discuss is the three main things that allow us to control our own attitudes. Attitudes are different than our beliefs. We will associate beliefs here as kinda like the shape and size of an aircraft. Beliefs can help us or limit us depending on how far we want to fly, or what kind of mission we want to fly. However, regardless of the shape and size of our "aircraft" we will need to learn to control our attitude.

Attitude is the core element that ties three areas of our lives together. These three areas are: our behavior, our feelings, and our thinking. Often times people do not realize that all three of these represent our choices. We have the ability to control, manipulate, and direct all three of these domains to control our attitude.

Follow me on this, Do our behaviors affect our feelings? Do our feelings affect our thoughts? Do our thoughts affect our behaviors? On the reverse, do our behaviors affect our thoughts? Do our thoughts affect our feelings? and do our feelings affect our behaviors? In the past I posted on the Power of pants. That post was about how we can have some input on our attitude by what we wear. You may have heard, or read, information on the power of positive thought. This too, is a great way to control attitude. Out of three areas of attitude control, it is easiest to start by picking one area that we know we can affect. Some people choose to start with their behavior. If I act like this, then I can become that. This is a valid choice. Some folks will try and control the way they feel. For me this is the hardest of the three to start with.

I tend to focus on the behavior I think has the biggest negative affect on how we think. This behavior is called "Self-talk". We tend to beat the crap out of our selves day in and day out. The constant self abuse has a profound affect on our attitude. What do we constantly tell ourselves? This is why I posted "I believe in you." We must stop beating ourselves down with negative self talk. If we can affect this area of behavior, we will affect the other two. And before you know it we will be airborne and on our way to success. Sounds too simple to be effective? Yes it does. But does it work? Very much so! It is your choice, however. You can choose to fly around in circles and feel like you're not going anywhere. Or, you can start controlling your attitude and take off in any direction you want to.


Christopher Morley

"Humor is perhaps a sense of intellectual perspective: an awareness that some things are really important, others not; and that the two kinds are most oddly jumbled in everyday affairs. "

It is hard to be tuff when.....

I have to admit, I love the Puss-n-Boots character in the Shrek movies. To be more specific, I love his little whimpering cat with the big sad eyes move. He seems so fragile and harmless, then he springs in to action and kicks the living crap out of his opponent.

I have one of those tuff guy jobs and often times I am forced to act tuff. Recently this was hard to do, I kinda felt like little ole Puss-n-Boots, for a moment. As I ready myself for work, I go through this mental changing of gears. I put on my hero suit, check my weapons to insure their readiness, get my mind into a state of toughness, then I take one last look into the mirror to insure I have completed my tuff guy persona. As I looked in the mirror, expecting to see the tuff persona I have seen for the last 17 years, something caught my eyes that just decimated the mental image I was sure I would see. Some how I had managed to acquire a significant amount of "Barbie Sprinkles" on my face. I immediately started to investigate this travesty. How the hell did this happen? How can I confidently go out into the wilds engaging in high risk operations with the possibilities of displaying Barbie sprinkles on my face?

Well, the investigation revealed that am un-named 10 year old girl recently received a Barbie party gift that included said sprinkles. This child put sprinkles on everything she owned, including the recently acquired cat. The cat was more than willing to share the drama as it jumped up on my pillow and decided to take a nap. I often times retreat to the rack in a dark environment and did not see the extent of the cat's sharing. Wa la!, I now had Barbie sprinkles all over my face. Do you have any Idea how hard it is to scold a 10 year old girl when your face is covered with Barbie sprinkles? She likened me to none other than that little cat called Puss-n- Boots.

Frank Crane

"Responsibility is the thing people dread most of all. Yet it is the one thing in the world that develops us, gives us manhood or womanhood fibre."

4 types of negative trait tendencies

One of my many mentors (Richard, PhD, where I also got the fear/love trees from) that I have had over the years taught me a great lesson. This lesson, like many lessons I have had to learn, created some feelings of anger inside me. I was directed to make a choice between one of the four labels that best described me. I did not like any of the four choices. I did not want to admit that I could be, or that I was, any of the four choices. Let me share with you this exercise that I now use often in the many classes I am asked to facilitate. You do one or more of these often. You have to choose between the four, which one you are the most. By taking responsibility for your "type" you become more aware of this behavior and thus can begin to make changes in your behavior.

1) Preacher;
The preacher is a person who tells others to do that which they do not do themselves. The old "do as I say, not as I do."

2) Placater;
The placater is one that will appease or pacify through concession or conciliatory gestures. This type of person tend s to just go along with something to avoid conflict or risk rejection.

3) Avoider;
The avoider avoids any and all conflict. This type of persons is kinda of like the ostrich who buries their head in the sand, if you cant see the danger it does not exists.

4) Blamer;
The blamer blames everyone else for the troubles they experience.

We all tend to be one of these. I felt angry when I was made to pick one. But once I realized that I tend to placate, often, I made some changes to stand my ground and speak up for my convictions. This was not easy not comfortable at first, but it has been very liberating for me. Give it some thought and identify which one you are. It could change your life.


Monday, October 08, 2007

Midge Decter

"It might sound a paradoxical thing to say --for surely never has a generation of children occupied more sheer hours of parental time --but the truth is that we neglected you. We allowed you a charade of trivial freedoms in order to avoid making those impositions on you that are in the end both the training ground and proving ground for true independence. We pronounced you strong when you were still weak in order to avoid the struggles with you that would have fed your true strength. We proclaimed you sound when you were foolish in order to avoid taking part in the long, slow, slogging effort that is the only route to genuine maturity of mind and feeling. Thus, it was no small anomaly of your growing up that while you were the most indulged generation, you were also in many ways the most abandoned to your own meager devices by those into whose safe-keeping you had been given."

Friday, October 05, 2007

Who's wispering in your childs ear

During some recent research I came across these two quotes. I wanted to post them, but felt I should not do so as just quotes as I normally do, due to their sobering content. I post often about how we form beliefs and how those beliefs become behaviors. Recently I have been posting on the death of character in the United States. I have held the belief that we are misleading our younger generations.

"I have the greatest admiration for your propaganda. Propaganda in the West is carried out by experts who have had the best training in the world — in the field of advertizing — and have mastered the techniques with exceptional proficiency ... Yours are subtle and persuasive; ours are crude and obvious ... I think that the fundamental difference between our worlds, with respect to propaganda, is quite simple. You tend to believe yours ... and we tend to disbelieve ours." - Soviet correspondent based five years in the U.S. (http://www.fdrs.org/propaganda_quotes.html)

"If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it. The lie can be maintained only for such time as the State can shield the people from the political, economic and/or military consequences of the lie. It thus becomes vitally important for the State to use all of its powers to repress dissent, for the truth is the mortal enemy of the lie, and thus by extension, the truth is the greatest enemy of the State." - Joseph Goebbels, Nazi Propaganda Minister (http://www.fdrs.org/propaganda_quotes.html)

With that said, let me throw a few questions out for discussion. 1) What message/s are our children getting on a daily basis? 2) What will be the impact of a substantial difference in generational beliefs on our society? 3) Who is dictating moral right and wrong?

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Henry David Thoreau

"Things do not change; we change."

I believe in you

Writing curriculum, teaching, and public speaking is something I have learned to enjoy. For me, all of these have one common thread. That thread is creating change. Recently I was interviewed for a new book coming out next spring. During this interview process, I spoke about many of the issues involved in creating change. As I pondered the questions posed to me, I came to what I considered the most important aspect of creating change. I am convinced that the most powerful thing we can do as agents of change is to tell some that we believe in them. It may seem so simple, and to some, it may even seem void of true meaning. But that comment has created more change in more people than I can count. If you are a person that would like to experience that wonderful feeling of being an agent of change, then I would like you to try something for me.

I want you to do something for one month and then come back here to SBH and post what your experience was. Here is the task, if you chose to accept it. For one month I want you to tell two people, every day, that you believe in them. BUT, one of those persons is your self. I am asking you to look into a mirror and stare at the person looking back at you. I want you to say aloud "I believe in you." Then I want you to pick one person that your path crosses routinely and tell them that you believe in them. It could be a co-worker, a boss, a friend, who ever you want. I want you to watch their reaction and attitude as they continue on their day. Before you know it, it will seem that the world around you is changing. Try it and see what happens.

Tuesday, October 02, 2007

Talking Bear

" The truth of it, no, the reality of it, is one that no one wants to face, We are not afforded tomorrows forever. What you did yesterday could be what you are remembered for tomorrow. Someday soon, someone else will decide that our time is done, the final buzzer will sound, and we will be left with what ever work we have done; whether we like our work or not, it will be finished. Live life as if you are constantly in the last seconds and just maybe we can leave the field so that another may be proud of what we have accomplished" TB 10-02-07

Monday, October 01, 2007

Albert Einstein

"All that is valuable in human society depends upon the opportunity for development accorded the individual."

Staying the course in life's dark hours.

For the past several weeks I have been posting on character issues. As I sit here in the quiet late night hours I was asking myself, " how do we stay the course?" I started to read a post on the problems with the constant shifting of paradigms. I understand the dangers of this, however, I also realize that many of us need to shift many of the beliefs that we formed unwillingly or unconsciously in our early years. I wonder though, how many of us have actually identified what our values, principles and beliefs are? If these things are the foundation stones of our character then how come we fail to honestly identify them and write them down in order to navigate by them when life gets rough? I came across a great example of written personal values on a web site. I thought that this was a great tool to help stay the course when it comes to being who we want to be. There are times when life's most important choices have to be made in the dark foggy moments. A compass of values and principles would be handy to guide our choice. Creating a written statement of who I am and why would help define my character, or at least I think it would. A map of character to navigate by. I think that it is too easy to run aground without such a tool. what do you think?


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