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Thursday, November 22, 2007

Dancing along the precarious precipices of fate, blindfolded!

Why do we make excuses for our stupidity? Why do we feel so compelled to place blame else where when we should have known better? Sayings like, "What you don't know won't hurt you", and "Ignorance is bliss" seemed to validate ignorance or excuse one's responsibility. Maybe it is to much to ask that adults actually learn the rules of a free society. As children we would never let another kid play a game with us if they did not know how to play. Where did we learn to placate ignorance? Where did we learn that it is inappropriate to speak out against unfairness and unjust acts? Why do some choose to live life ignorantly hanging by the thread of fate?

I wonder if our fears of having to deal with what we would see or learn keeps us quiet? Maybe the Ostrich is on to something. Just bury our head and the danger will pass. Maybe ignorance is bliss. That way we do not feel compelled to fix anything. We can just keep our own little world going and not be bothered. But it doesn't work that way does it? Sooner or later that which we hide from will come around to haunt us in some fashion. I guess it all comes down to what we fear the most. When crime gets so bad that I fear for the safety of my family, then I will act and cry out for more community safety efforts. When my children fall victim to some sickness then I will cry out for more research of the sickness. Maybe I enjoy my complacent position of mediocrity. The problem is that by the time these things are bad enough to create such a fear, I am to late to act upon them. When we will take the position that what affects my fellow man, affects me? When we will remove our blindfold and step away from fate's edge? I am just wondering. Any ideas?



Peajay said...

Up until today I was guilty of not necessarily ignorance but evasion of the truth but as you said 'Sooner or later that which we hide from will come around to hunt us in some fashion.'
I am either a truly crap friend or just guilty of being unable to pick up signs when friendship turns to a darker more obsessive side. As far as I am aware I treat people as I would wish to be treated, with respect, warmth and with open-heart. Sometimes in this busy life we lead it's difficult to find the time to be all inclusive of our friends and it sometimes takes effort to keep in touch, but that effort is rewarded by that friendship. However, sometimes the effort is so very great and the reward so challenging that we choose to ignore, yes, like the ostrich, evade the reasons behind the effort. Sooner or later such folly will turn round and hurt you.

Talking Bear said...

PJ, Can you shoot me a email and let me know what happened? I would love to talk about it, I know talking helped me awhile back when I had a seemingly similar situation. Anyway, I would love to help anyway I can, TB

storyteller said...

As usual, you raise an issue I've grumbled about for decades (in a professional sense ... dealing with kids & parents) and for which I have no solution. Once again, I'm reminded of a quote from somewhere in my past that says something like "we were so busy giving our children what we didn't have, we neglected to give them what we did."

Since an ostrich with its head buried in the sand exposes it's rear end (in tempting style), it's likely to be "kicked in the butt" ... and that's what seems to be happening in society today.

ACIM teaches that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. I suspect that's what you're doing with these posts ... raising awareness and encouraging self-examination in the hope we'll wake up and do our part.

Thanks for putting things back the way they were so I can read your posts in Google Reader (black on white), however methinks I'm catching up backwards (in reverse?).
Hugs and blessings,

Talking Bear said...

ST, I love the ACIM concept- "When the student is ready the teacher appears". What a great way to put it. So what makes the student ready?, and What lessons are the "students" ready for? I am also searching for understanding in what events in life brings one to a place of willingness to examine the self. I have realized that this is no small feat. Today's lifestyles have left a wake of emotional disasters in many lives. It is here, in the midst of such destruction that I am searching for the process of healing. There are many lives at stake and I feel compelled to help. But I first must understand, deeply understand, if I am to be of any help to anyone. I am a traveler on a journey to find wholeness. Wholeness to find reciprocal Acceptance, true Togetherness, and ultimately to find that elusive place called internal Peace.

Along my journey’s path I found the winds of hate buffeting me. I have heard the roar of rejection. I have seen despair’s path of sorrow. I have tasted the bitterness of ignorant hate. And I have felt the chilling cold of loneliness. I know somewhere out there is a circle of heroes huddled closely around the campfire of humility and compassion waiting for the magical moment when we all have had enough of this madness.

storyteller said...

My new virtual friend and kindred spirit. I suspect I'm considerably older than you ... and my first response upon reading your comments here is, "Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and the coffee cup to remind me of lessons learned (so I wouldn't need to repeat them ad nauseum) ... and I've had TERRIBLE THINGS done to me in awful ways (leaving me confused & emotionally bruised, bewildered and in search of answers) and yet ...

When I heard Don Henley sing about "The end of the innocence" and "It's about forgiveness ..." something clicked and everything in life fell into place.
--"Turn the other cheek"
--"The meek shall inherit the earth"
--"Love thy neighbor as thyself" (this one can get one into trouble when we don't love & accept ourselves ya know?)

et cetera et cetera et cetera (LOL--I've got an image of Yule Brenner in "The King and I" here, sorry and excuse me while I collect myself and get back on point)

Anyway ... all those early lessons made sense finally! We're all students and all teachers. The roles change in different situations ... but one thing I learned repeatedly as a "teacher" was "we teach what WE need to learn" (another lesson from ACIM).

I used to have a t-shirt that said "Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig."

Lest that seem off point ... I submit that those times I felt most passionately about something and was having minimal success (if any) getting the lesson across, were the vivid moments of clarity when I stepped back and realized critical lessons that altered my life forever. Once I stopped trying to change others, and focused on my own lessons ... amazingly others changed in my presence. Because I was different, they behaved differently. Who knew?

So my furry friend, it's about walking the walk ... showing not telling ... being not doing :)

"Walk not in front, for I may not follow ... nor behind for I won't lead, but along side as companion (be ye friend or foe)." I have no idea who said that, but I'm sure someone did ... and it wasn't me. LOL

Anyway ... some of my best teachers were the people in my life who were the most difficult to love and accept ... just as they are ... but once I did so, life improved greatly. Everyone benefited ... and I learned to be more tolerant & accepting of myself as I prayerfully extended loving-kindness to others, learning how to "take my burdens to God and leave them in her capable hands."

So ... that's my two-bits (for now anyway). Just remember, I am a dinosaur :)
Hugs and blessings,

Talking Bear said...

ST, DO not get me wrong, I agree with you whole heartily. I have accepted and put into action in my own life all of these things you comment on. I do realize it is a journey. I love your input and I like Yule Brenner. .LOL, and as for age....My father is 90, do the math. I guess you are around my sister’s young age. Of course I was born very late in life for my parents...LOL.

Here is the sea we face today, which I am pretty sure is a different sea than when you taught. We have kids shooting up schools (the East coast had a capper where a 6 year old brought a hand gun to school and killed a classmate. We have 50% of a freshman class dropping out of school before their senior year. The Feds report that 26% of American families are traditional families. Which means that we have 3 out of 4 families that are “fractured” in some way? I realize that the stats that are being published seemed to show improvement. But who wants to promote their failure when we can adjust the numbers?

I am not on a quest for myself alone. I have been given much responsibility to find an effective way to help address these issues. I lead a very unique team on this quest. And I need all the help I can get, especially from those who have been in the trenches, the ones who have been there done that. I would love to be able to only focus only on my own growth, but that is not to be. We have a saying within our group which we got from someone else. It goes like this “To change the world, change yourself.” It echoes what you are saying. But there is always a cause and effect ebb and flow mechanism at work. I search for the most effective way to cause the change. Granted, much of it has to be done from the individual. But there is a question to be asked that will create the desire for change. Kind of like the “holy grail” of questions.

There is, as I am sure there always has been, a sense of urgency that we are losing the younger generations. Today, this is fueled by the apparent polarization of today’s youth. Some are doing way better than we ever did. Some are more violent in their young lives than we ever dreamed of being. I stand on a lonely wall with thousands trying to stop the great loss that is looming on the horizon. This calling also is ignited by God. “She”—I did catch that one – is calling for workers to go out into the harvest and work, but the workers are few and far between. Why is that?

I can not find it in my heart, to simply explain away this heavy burden with phrase I learned in Sunday school. I agree we need more adults to model…. “it's about walking the walk ... showing not telling ... being not doing”. I am looking for the spark that ignites that fire, the wind that will blow it across a country, and the passion that will keep it burning. God has heard your prayers and called upon some to answer them.

Big hugs and blessings, your furry friend TB.

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